Really fed up today...My sister knocked another one out last night. My mum couldn't wait to text me even though my sister and I haven't spoken in
years. It was bad enough when the first kid was born 5 years ago. It took a year for my mum to start treating me ok instead of like an utter disappointment to
her. During that time I (stupidly) asked her if she was proud of me at all. Her response was 'why would I be proud, you haven't done anything'. Her
living room is like a shrine to the grandkid and my sister. She only put a photo of me up when I commented that it looked like she only had one daughter.
Horrible photo too :-( Bloody families!
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Posts: 999 (08/11/09 14:19) |
Oh, jelly, that's really rubbish behaviour of your mum!!!
I wouldn't want you to sar a family war or anyting, but have you actually come out and directly said that you think she's being a bit off in the way that she treats you, simply because you've opted not to have children - it's not a crime. You're not a blimmin' murderer or anything!!!! Stedders 
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Posts: 4476 (08/11/09 15:54) Moderator |
Stedders1975 wrote:A BIT off? Jellybaby, your mother is way out of line treating you this way! Perhaps you should remind her of all the things you HAVE done (and I'm sure there are many - all requiring considerably more brains and talent than it takes to spit out another sprog!). |
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Posts: 5398 (08/11/09 19:43) Moderator |
Well that sucks Jelly. I can see one thing that you've done straight away which is that by now having kids you've kept the average no. of children for
you and your sister to one, thus reducing the damage to the planet for future generations to enjoy. If your suster won;t take advice from David attenborough,
she's clearly a complete fool and we can only hope that her children manage to take after their aunt instead.
You are an angel heading for a land of sunshine. Fortune is smiling upon you.
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Posts: 999 (10/11/09 14:18) |
Leela wrote:Aw, Leela, I have to try really hard to be diplomatic when talking to others (or trying to advise!). I thought I was really good there, even though I actually agree with you!! 
Like I said (albeit badly - my home laptop has very sticky keys, and I don't always see the typos as I know I've pressed the keys, and so read what I think I've typed, as opposed to what I've ACTUALLY typed.  )
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Posts: 4476 (10/11/09 14:28) Moderator |
Sorry Stedders, that wasn't aimed at you, honest!
I've given up trying to be diplomatic, my anger usually gets the best of me - especially where someone's being treated unfairly! |
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Posts: 8359 (10/11/09 21:32)
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Leela wrote:You diplomatic, sorry let me say that again, you and diplomatic!! Is that the same as me and sledge hammer 
Jelly my love I agree with Leela, your mum is out of order and it's a shame she does not see you for who you are, a bright, witty, strong young woman who she should be proud of. If I can see that why the hell can't she (it's her loss!!) For the record my mum loves me but she will never understand why I have never had children, and I think my brother (who breed) will always be treated as the better offspring.  Childfree means freedom,
why the hell would you want to give that up.
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Posts: 40 (10/11/09 21:54) |
Thanks for the comments.....I think i've kind of given up on my mum's side of the family now. They will never accept that i'm normal. But
that's fine....I have my own life and when I eventually settle down and get married (maybe) I will be part of my own little family.
By the way, not only is this my sister's second kid...It's the fifth kid for her husband!!!!!! Lovely eh? |
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Posts: 8359 (10/11/09 22:03)
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You have us my love
xx Childfree means freedom,
why the hell would you want to give that up.
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Posts: 566 (13/11/09 16:08) |
Mrs MB Said: For the record my mum loves me but she will never understand why I
have never had children, and I think my brother (who breed) will always be treated as the better offspring. Jellybaby, also for the record I am in a similar situation as Mrs MB (see above) . . hubby and I don't measure up because we don't have children . . . it's not only parents either we get it from lots of people we know too. You are your own person and a very brave one at that because we all know that living against the grain can be very hard at times. Sod your mother (not nice what she does I know) but you have to be able to live your own life and if she treats you differently because of that then it is definately her loss. Just be grateful you are not stuck knee high in nappies like your sister (neen shudders) . . you are obviously the brighter one of the two sisters!! |
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Posts: 40 (13/11/09 22:23) |
Family can be so rude if you don't do what they expect/want. I guess it undermines their decisions to do what people expect. It's tribal my dad used to
say- u r in or out. To be in you have to follow the crowd. I've never particularly fitted in, and I like to rebel. I can't bear to do something because
someone else told me to.
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Posts: 26 (21/11/09 11:51) |
Jelly - your mum sounds like mine - except I don't have any siblings so I get the added pressure cos I'm the only one. I am fed up with my mum
`hinting' that if we had had children, then we wouldn't have time for our own lives!!!
 How shit is that?!
I hate family politics and BTW your mum is totally out of order! |
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Posts: 1615 (21/11/09 12:14) |
jellybaby wrote:I hope your Mum remembers that in the years to come, and I do hope it comes back to haunt her. Your Mum has given you a get out of jail free card with what she has said, how sad and pathetic it is to judge someone on whether or not they have children. |
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